It doesn’t matter what we say, what we do, how we look or how we choose to spend our time; people will judge us regardless. So we might as well be our truest self and be judged for being authentic too.
Only a fearful person would have to make someone feel small, in order to make their self feel big. I feel a little pity those who regularly judge others, as that must be a very sad & fearful life to live.
Being authentic takes courage because it makes you an easy target for the judgemental comments of jealous cowards and of those, there are many in the world.
Putting on a false, people pleasing mask so that everyone will like us might avoid some judgement, but a person’s heart will wither and dry-up inside if a false life is lived for too long, creating huge amounts of misery & sadness in the process. It is better to be appreciated by just a few for us being our true self, than it is for being liked by many for being someone that we are not.
We are each amazing and unique, everyone being fantastic for different reasons. We should support each other as we drop the masks and become our truest self.
I keep in mind that no matter whatever we say or do…
1/3 of people with hate it
1/3 of people will be indifferent
1/3 of people will love it
It’s impossible to please everyone; trying to do so will be an inevitable failure. Not everyone will like or appreciate our true self and this is okay. I personally don’t like everyone I meet, so why would it be fair to expect everyone to like me in return? I don’t even like every song written by my favourite band, so it’s a tall order to expect myself to like all people that I bump into. With this in mind, I need to give others the room to not like me either, without taking it personally. To be honest here, I meet plenty of people that don’t like me and that’s okay, not everyone we meet will be our tribe. Thankfully, I meet plenty of other people who do enjoy my company with me just being myself. People’s likes and dislikes are often wrapped-up in all sorts of complexities that are rarely even about us. I once knew a guy that refused to socialise with a friend of mine just because she reminded him of his ex-girlfriend. It can be that superficial.
However, life does become so much easier when we don’t take stuff like this personally. The faster we let this stuff go, the faster we can just move on with lives. We win by being our most authentic self, seeking only our own validation. In doing so, 1/3 of people will love it and 1/3 is more than enough. It is the ego that would demand more.
It’s better to be loved by a small crowd for being someone that we really are, than to be liked by a large crowd for being someone who we are not.